Context: In the digital age, the software industry is central to innovation but still faces persistent gender inequality. Despite women’s historical contributions, their presence in the software industry remains disproportionately low due to systemic barriers. Aims: To identify and analyze challenges faced by women in software engineering based on descriptions in gray literature. Objectives include analyzing gender challenges, revealing their effects, identifying solutions, and organizing knowledge on barriers, effects, and solutions. Method: Using gray literature for its unique insights, we analyzed posts from the DEV online community. The research involved data extraction, manual coding, thematic analysis, and discussion of results. Results: From the DEV articles, we identified barriers like toxic men dominance, sexism, pay gaps, and stereotypes, causing emotional exhaustion and career aspiration changes. Proposed solutions include mentorship, skill development, ignoring threats, and salary negotiation to foster workplace inclusion for women in software engineering.